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It's a long time I've not been around , well I'm back
Today , I intend to take you to another unlit corner of my life in the past . this time take care you won't cough as I uncover my heart by taking the veil of it which would almost certainly send a mass of dust in the air , by reading this you will respond to yet another unasked for invitation which would let you explore some of the nook and crannies of my romantic life . Don't be taken a back , I don't mean to share stories which do not entirely belong to me and make you drown in a deep ocean of sensation in which I have once swum , what I do want to do indeed is shed light on certain concepts and share with public the lessons I have taken as I was on the way to reaching where I am romantically now , I would call it romantic maturity.
Having been involved with romance during long periods of my life and having experienced first hand a great deal about opposite sex romance , I have found out one thing , which I have to admit to very matter- of- factly here . That is the magnetic nature of relationships which turns a relationship into a bitter game requiring ultimate levels of skill but takes the sweetness out of a love affair. Don't wonder what the magnetic thing was since I'll explain that later.
The way I view things, What guarantees the long term survival of a relationship is a balance between feelings and not a burning love , by that I mean the slightest inequality between how deeply partners feel for each other will take the relationship one step closer to its eventual breakdown however difficult it might be to imagine an end for it. So my advice to you , who is desperately trying to keep your love working is to think of striking a balance even if that means you have to love your sweetheart less as the amount of your love should match hers/his. Here comes that magnetic nature to justify this decision you should make and that is the unpleasant fact that as one pole of a magnet repels the other so would you repel your partner if you ever give them the impression that your love exceeds theirs . Difficult to believe, though if you carry out a two minute scan of your past you will easily spot signs of what I just explained in your own lives, that might partly be attributed to the natural sense of intimidation one gets when they feel they don't only belong to themselves , in other words we naturally don't like it if someone cares about us more than we do ourselves maybe it's freedom limiting , and may be and more probably it goes back to our heart which does not have enough capacity to harbor a feeling of such size when we are sure of the other side , actually as long as we are not fully sure of our partner's feeling , love is more like an exciting adventure we are dabbling in but once one person loves us deeply it gets the gray color of a probable addition of a responsibility and a commitment without the thrilling side of an adventure. And I think the extent of one person's love can be measured by the extent to which this person is ready to make sacrifices for the other. Therefore sometimes by making sacrifices you will make your partner tolerate a heavier weight of responsibility on their back which is itself a thing which can potentially make them consider escaping. It is also the invisible transference of a sense of superiority you might cause to the one you love by "overloving" them.
From what I can gather being loved is a very difficult task which not everyone is able to handle , I read somewhere it demands a level of perfection to tolerate somebody who loves you and ,I'd say, a more advanced level to love them back . people say love happens once , but I think on your part it can happen for as many times as they are days in your life , the important thing is that you can only be truly loved once , by someone who won't leave you so it's a chance not to be missed . it's an art to appreciate other people's feelings for you and be able to respond to them rather than escaping from them. If you have this art then you deserve love
Enjoy it and let it shed its shiny light on your life